Get ready for this one, it’s going to take you out of comfort zone and improve your mental well-being.
These are some facts of life that we rather ignore or refuse to face, but are very true nonetheless.
To become the best version of yourself, you have to accept them and learn to live with them.
So let’s go, get those tissues out and start building your better life right now.
If you sacrifice something for someone else, don’t expect anything in return
There are a lot of good people out there who have the desire to help out anyone who is in need. However, they also expect that gesture to be appreciated.
Fact is, if you help someone, that’s just your choice and you should accept that there won’t be a reward each and every time.
You may feel like you’ve done a lot, but the person on the receiving end didn’t ask for your sacrifice. Meaning you did more than what was asked and therefore cannot be rewarded appropriately.
Speaking of which…
Doing overtime and extra work doesn’t mean anything to your boss
Granted, there will be some employers who actually reward you for this but these are far and few.
Have you ever been asked to stay longer or do some tasks that are not within your expertise or job description?
There are two answers when asked: no, it’s not in my job description and yes, I’ll gladly do it, thanks for the vote of confidence.
Needless to say, the only good response is that it’s not your job to do tasks that others failed to do or to sacrifice your private life for a boss who only sees you as a labourer.
Learn to say no and don’t put yourself under that extreme pressure before it becomes a normal thing.
In fact, your boss doesn’t even care about your personal problems
The day you were hired, you were meant to do one thing: increase the revenue for the company.
People who are often absent or who fail to meet demands because of their personal issues will just be replaced with others who do meet the expectations.
Couldn’t sleep because your newborn was crying all night? Your boss may pretend to care, but if you’re late to work because of it, he’s just looking at how much that cost him.
Learn to separate work and private life as much as possible and you’ll be happier and a better employee.
Even worse, you’re not the centre of the universe
When we see someone close to us in trouble, we often think that we have something to do with that. Most of the time that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
It’s human nature to want to place ourselves into every situation and try to relate how we influence it.
But you’re not there. You’re not automatically a part of everything or everyone’s life.
Learn to take a step back and look at situations from a different point of view. Try to imagine yourself in the third person view and then decide how much you’re part of the situation.
And ignoring your friends will lead to them ignoring you
Are you the type of person who blows off dates or get-togethers at the last minute and very often?
Well then, don’t be surprised if you stop being asked at all.
Why would anyone want to spend time with you, when you make it clear that you’re not interested in spending time with them?
So give your friends and loved ones the feeling that they matter to you, even if it’s somewhat inconvenient at the time.
And be honest if you’re just looking for a quiet evening at home. Don’t make up some random excuse that ultimate may be exposed anyway. It’s all about trust and respect.
Also, it’s not because you respect different appearances, that you should forgo your self-care
These days the internet is swarmed with movements that fight for the acceptance of every appearance and body type.
That’s great, we shouldn’t let those things negatively impact our relationships with others.
However, there is a line that is easily crossed which leads to some serious health problems.
If you’re obese, you’re playing with your own life. There is no need to explain what it does to your body, it’s just bad. So making others accept you for it, is still slowly killing you.
Some people take this to extremes and completely let themselves go, often leading to serious health issues that can only be fixed through expensive health care treatments.
And appearance does matter
You only have one chance at a first impression is a cliché that’s also the only truth.
It’s human nature to make that initial assessment based on your appearance.
So if you’re going to a job interview then set aside your personal style for just that moment and go for the best appearance you can muster.
The same goes for dating or meeting new people. If you arrive in torn clothes and half your hair missing because of some shaving accident you never bothered to fix, you won’t get a second chance.
It takes the average human only 7 seconds to establish that first impression, so you better make it a good one.
Who you are, is a consequence of your personal decisions
People tend to blame certain shortcomings on external factors, while the truth is that you’re the only one to blame.
Want a job but you can’t speak the language they demand? That’s because you never bothered to learn it.
Noticing that you’re overweight? Well, you let yourself get to that point.
Scared that smoking might kill you? Well, you lit that first cigarette.
Everything you do in your life and the actions you take, are up to you. Everything that you failed at, is your own fault.
But there’s some really good news here: because you are the master of your life, you can just get to it and realise your dreams.
All you have to do is take the correct actions and you’ll eventually fulfil your ambitions.
You’ll have to be learning new things your entire life
Forget about school and college, those were just the appetizers for a 12-course meal.
Nobody has all the knowledge or skills in the world and things are constantly evolving.
If you want to stop on top of your game, you’ll have to invest time to learn new things.
Want that promotion? You’ll probably have to gain some new skills and work really hard at it.
Maybe a new career is what you want, but you’ll have to practice the things that are needed.
Face it, there’s always going to be someone who is better than you
Even with all that learning and practising, there’s always going to be someone who is better at something.
Nobody stays young forever, so you won’t be as fast anymore. Perhaps you failed to motivate yourself to be up to date with some new technology and now the new kids are racing past you.
No matter what subject or action, there is someone better. Wanting to become the best at what you do is a goal, but it can never be the end-goal because someone else is doing the same.
So be the best that you can be and don’t try to be the best ever. You’ll never win.
And finally, you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy
Goes what this blog is all about? That’s right, learning to be happy on your own.
It gets worse even, if you can’t be happy alone, you’ll never be happy in a relationship either.
Although relationships can be amazing, they’re only so when two people complement each other and not have to spend all their time making the other half happy.
So learn to be a happy single and then look for that amazing relationship. You’ll soon realise that life isn’t just about being with someone.
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